Hell yes or no

Most of the time we roam around earth without a clear direction. We let the winds guide us, we accept everything, we take up activities because some friend asked. Just because we don’t dislike something it does not mean that we like it.
Yeah, I could read this book, but it’s an ok book. Wouldn’t it be better to read that other awesome book? Just because it is there does not mean that you should take it in.
We should stop doing things that do not spark joy in us and create space for the activities that brightens us up.

So every time you need to take a decision think. Is it a hell yes!! ? if not, then it’s a sharp no. No shame, no regrets. Otherwise you will be to busy for the things that make you happy.

We live in a society where we put each other’s genitals in our mouth but we don’t like the black spots on the bananas

We are full of contradictions. You think you’re smart because you are able to point out the contradictions of the others but you don’t escape them either. Some examples:

  • Work so we have money for our retirement vs. Be with our families and enjoy them now. We need to do both.
  • Democracy vs. People making bad choices. Democracy is not perfect and not good for every society. The problem is what system works better?
  • Enjoy every day vs. Live careful, healthy lives.
  • Speak your mind vs. Let others be. Let’s have free speech, but not be insulting.
  • In the end all of us have contradictions, but those contradictions have a reason. As Aristotle’s put it Virtue is the happy medium between two extremes. Rarely life is white or black. In many cases we need to compromise, don’t be afraid to find a middle ground for your ideas.


    “Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!”
    Hunter S. Thompson

    The Man in the Arena – April 23, 1910

    “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
    – Theodore Roosevelt

    Self worth

    As long as you try to impress others,
    you are not convinced of your own strength.
    As long as you strive to be better than others,
    you are doubting your own worth.
    As long as you try to elevate yourself by lowering others,
    you are doubting your own greatness.
    Who is in peace with oneself doesn’t have to prove anything to others.
    Who knows one’s own worth doesn’t need validation.
    Who knows about one’s own greatness lets others keep theirs.
    -Gabriele Ebbighausen

    Human consciousness

    “I think human consciousness is a tragic misstep in evolution. We became too self-aware. Nature created an aspect of nature separate from itself. We are creatures that should not exist by natural law. We are things that labor under the illusion of having a self, a secretion of sensory experience and feeling programmed with total assurance that we are each somebody, when in fact everybody’s nobody. I think the honorable thing for our species to do is deny our programming; stop reproducing; walk hand-in-hand into extinction.”
    – Rustin Cohle (True Detective)